May We See!

Why is it so that one always really needs somebody, to whom he can go and be himself?  Somebody, who would just accept him as he is, every time.

What I learnt out of life about relationships, is that they are time bound, if not space bound. No relationship can last forever as one of the parties has to leave the world before another. Only very few ones go together. Moreover, it is not easy to find true relationships at the start of life, one has to work towards it. Alas, sometimes it takes lifetime to find the right one. Relationships are time bound, you have to get them in right time or they are gone forever.

True assets in life are true relationships. If you have one, you are very lucky, indeed. If you have someone where you are not ashamed to be as you are, where you can open yourself completely - it is very likely that you will see happiness within and around, you will cherish your life, and, you will prosper and do well. Not because he will provide you with comforting and encouraging words, but because you go and accept the responsibility of your deeds, you discuss the options, you see the world again with him – this time unbiased. The moment we take responsibility of our actions, the past is nullified, what remains is, present and future.

I had a friend, with whom I was as open as I am with myself. I told her that I secretly admired another friend’s wife, that I cheated one of my partners and succeeded in covering it, that I lacked courage in life, and, that I was failing in my ventures. Each time she just smiled and accepted. She never complained, did not even make a comment on whether I did right or wrong. She just listened and acknowledged that she understood what I meant. But, after that, I never looked at the friend’s wife the same way, never cheated anyone, became less afraid in life and was working better in my ventures. All just because she made me see it - my actions - “as is”.

She is no more. I miss her, I miss myself.

I tried bridging the gap with few others and becoming close to them, but there was something missing; everyone had an imposing idea about how I should lead the life. They would read between Right and Wrong.

I understand that it does not come easy. We somehow start looking at other’s life with our eyes when he narrates it to us, though what we need at that time is his eyes - as he sees it.

I have not given up, I am sure of finding one with whom I can share the black spots, the grey spots and the white spots of my journey. Sure after sharing, the spots start changing their colours - the black spots look white, the grey turn to black and the white ones become grey, or else, they may change in any other order as they like. Though sometimes, they like to retain their colour. Life is like that.

My purpose for writing this piece, is to invite you, to walk this wonderful journey of life together with your loved ones and with people around. May you see the colours in their lives and vice versa....May the colours be more bright each day!

May you have love, smile and happiness with you.. around you.. Always!

With Love,

Ritesh